My questions is…Is it possible for my ex to have an abortion if I do not agree?
The reason I ask is because she is an unfit mother. She already has 2 children with 2 different men and she is currently homeless. My 2nd question is How hard would it be for me to get custody of my child if she does not have an abortion?
Unfortunately, you have no legal say in the matter. Please do whatever you can to try to talk her out of it. You might show her:
Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Be kind when you share the information with her. Emphasize you concern for her. Tell her that you do not want to see her physically harmed and that you do not want her to live with regret for the rest of her life. Tell her that regardless of the current state of your relationship, the child you made together is beautiful and deserves to live. I know you will likely be tempted to become angry at her, but this could backfire. She may abort your child just to spite you. Stay gentle, stay calm, and do whatever it takes to save your baby.
I’m afraid I can’t help you with the custody question. You will need to talk to a lawyer.