I want to know if you guys can give me any information about abortion. Both surgical and medical abortion information would be great.
DO NOT give me the lecture of "you’re old enough to have sex so be old enough to accept the consequences". I’m 22 years old and am on the birth control pill and my boyfriend uses condoms religiously. Something obviously happened.
And no, adoption is not an option for me.
I’m really sorry this has happened to you – it must be incredibly stressful and upsetting to have to consider an abortion, and I hope I never have to go through that. I’m presuming that you’ve already thought through your options (keeping the baby, adoption, termination) and have decided that this decision is the best one for you. I don’t know where you are (I’m in the UK), but I’ll tell you what I’ve learned from knowing three people who’ve gone through abortions. If you’re in a different country, the administrative details may differ but the basic information should be similar.
If it’s less than 63 days since you conceived, see your doctor about the possibility of a chemical termination. This would probably be the least traumatic option, but it’s not suitable for everyone and your doctor will be able to advise you on this.
It makes sense that the earlier you get the termination performed, the simpler and less traumatic it will be for you. If you CAN get the pill, you’ll be in some discomfort as the embryo is shed by contractions of the uterus (apparently it’s similar to very strong period pains in some women), but it’s considered generally safe under the supervision of a doctor. The pill is a drug called Mifepristone which you’ll be given at the doctor’s office, but you’ll be at home for most of the time. This means you can be in familiar, comforting surroundings, as well as having the ability to have company and support from someone you trust.
If you’re later in pregnancy, or the mifepristone fails to cause a termination, you’ll have to have a more traditional abortion, for which your doctor will refer you to a hospital or clinic.
Up to about 13 weeks you’ll be offered a surgical termination under local or general anaesthetic. A sterile tube is inserted into the uterus via the cervix, then suction is applied and the pregnancy is terminated this way. Many women can leave the hospital the same day, but obviously in any case, you’ll need good professional follow-up and care.
After this time (I hope this doesn’t apply) you would usually have a medical termination. You’d be given medication to induce contractions and will expel the foetus and uterine lining vaginally. Some doctors will perform a surgical abortion at this stage, but it’s a more complicated procedure and most would opt for a medical termination instead.
Please bear in mind that whichever path you go down, this is going to be very difficult for you. Abortion is a desperate act in most cases, and an incredibly stressful decision to make. You should ensure you get good counselling before and after the procedure, and if possible confide in someone you know who definitely has your best interests at heart.
Additionally, you could call the British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS) in the UK, or Planned Parenthood (in the US) who can offer you advice and counselling, and can also help arrange the procedure for you.
Whatever happens, I wish you good luck and enduring peace with your decision. Nobody has the right to judge you as they don’t know your life or situation – whatever you do is between you and your conscience and I hope you’ve considered this very carefully. The three women I know who’ve gone down this path don’t regret their decision, but it was pretty difficult at the time for understandable reasons.
Take care.